Aight, Imma be real with ya here. The obviously attractive one was either probably not that interested into you or she has a boyfriend. Girls aren't stupid. Girls pretty much know immediately when a guy is trying to talk to one of them, and if she's obviously more attractive her and the whole group probably know it's her. If she's not responding to you right off the bat she more than likely has her reasons. On the other hand though, the one that was talking to ya might be way cooler in the long run. Ya never know.

That makes a lot of sense and although it sucks, I guess it all worked out the way it would have either way. And I didn't get straight up rejected which is just fine by me. Thanks for being real. Helps a lot.

Also… know that you are not and were not ever just fans to me.

How do you not constantly play with your boobs. If I were a woman, I would never be productive.

Look, aight. I'm going to be totally honest here with out sounding like a huge pervert: I do. No, Really. I do. Not always in a sexual manner, boobs are just fun as hell. If I'm totally by myself and just having a normal day you can be certain there are many times I'm looking at them, poking them, squishing them or just playing some good ol' boob bongos. I doubt I'm the only one...

I'm just a lover of boobs though. All boobs are great. Big, small, hard, soft, tan, pale.. okay, maybe not old ones. But seriously. All boobs rock.

... I just want to reinstate that I am a completely straight female. Just one who happens to appreciate all female forms.

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I broke out into a fit of laughter as I read that and had to show my girlfriend who was sitting next to me.

She told me to tell you that you that she agreed

I loved the way that [musical term] sounded against the [musical term]. And the [musical term]! It was a fucking great [musical term].

Hey, my girlfriend went to kiss me today.
I backed away and told her that I wasn't ready. (I've never been kissed before)
She proceeded to say that it was okay and all that jazz... but I couldn't help but feel guilty.
She looked upset.
...
Did I do something wrong?

*cracks knuckles* Aight, I got this.

Rejection (even gentle rejection) is always a bit of a blow, regardless of gender. You didn't do anything wrong, but I've kinda been in this predicament before, so here's a little insight on what she might be feeling and why it might have been a shot to her ego:

Women are raised with the mindset that they aren't supposed to be the one to wait / get rejected. She is taught that boys instinctively want physical progress as soon as possible and that she needs to wait for a guy who respects her enough to wait until SHE'S ready. A boyfriend is supposed to be really eager and touched when his girl is ready to kiss. It's something that she's probably thought about for a bit and has decided that she's ready to give it to you.... and then you don't want it?

I know this is a terrible way to raise a little girl, but think about all the Disney movies. How often do you see a prince get rejected? A couple. A Princess? Never. The guy usually falls in love first and has to wait for / get the girl to fall for him / scared of getting rejected by her. Think about how we're brought up to learn how to wait to have sex or have boyfriends. We're taught that every guy that likes us wants to get in our knickers asap, and that they have to wait for us to be ready to move in that direction at all. It's just kinda programmed in our head that we only "gift" a kiss to a really special guy and that he's extremely appreciative and excited to receive it. So when you're not ready, it's easy easy for us to feel rejected a bit.( I hope I'm making sense D8)


Okay, so now that you understand why she might be a little butthurt, if you really like her and so on, here's two things I would suggest you do to help remedy that:

Let her know that you are nervous. When I girl isn't ready to kiss yet, it's usually because she's still debating if the guy is worthy of it/ if she's ready to give him one. If you're just nervous about how to kiss/the act of kissing/ having your first kiss, you want to emphasis that it doesn't have to do with her. You're not rejecting her kiss, you're just not sure she'd like yours. (If that's the case at least)

Also let her know that you feel special knowing SHE was ready to kiss you. This sounds really really dumb. But look at it like this: Let's say I bake a ballin ass super cupcake. I put a lot of time, effort and consideration in this bitch and it's the by far my favorite cupcake I ever made... and I decide I want to give it to you. Even if you're a diabetic and allergic to sweet deliciousness I'm going to assume you're going to be all "Holy shit, Adnelle. I feel so fucking awesome that you wanted to give me your bad ass cupcake. I really can't eat it right now but just the fact that you wanted me to have it is awesome" Okay, yeah. I'm exaggerating. But what I'm saying is is that she didn't offer you a piece of gum. She probably put in some thought about kissing you too and came to the conclusion in her mind that she liked you so much that she wanted to kiss you... even if you're not quite ready, you should feel a little flattered. Let her know.


Her way of thinking with out a doubt is kinda dumb, but blame most of society. Also, kissing is fun. Go for it (At your own pace, but seriously, don't over think it) practice makes perfect. ;]


god damn that's a lot of text. If none of this made sense, let me know.

Alternately, stop being a baby and do it

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Let her know that you are nervous. When a girl isn't ready to kiss yet, it's usually because she's still debating if the guy is worthy of it/ if she's ready to give him one. If you're just nervous about how to kiss/the act of kissing/ having your first kiss, you want to emphasis that it doesn't have to do with her. You're not rejecting her kiss, you're just not sure she'd like yours. (If that's the case at least)

Also let her know that you feel special knowing SHE was ready to kiss you. This sounds really really dumb. But look at it like this: Let's say I bake a ballin ass super cupcake. I put a lot of time, effort and consideration in this bitch and it's the by far my favorite cupcake I ever made... and I decide I want to give it to you. Even if you're a diabetic and allergic to sweet deliciousness I'm going to assume you're going to be all "Holy shit, Adnelle. I feel so fucking awesome that you wanted to give me your bad ass cupcake. I really can't eat it right now but just the fact that you wanted me to have it is awesome" Okay, yeah. I'm exaggerating. But what I'm saying is is that she didn't offer you a piece of gum. She probably put in some thought about kissing you too and came to the conclusion in her mind that she liked you so much that she wanted to kiss you... even if you're not quite ready, you should feel a little flattered. Let her know.

I loved the way that [musical term] sounded against the [musical term]. And the [musical term]! It was a fucking great [musical term].